Pegging – It’s Here and It’s A Thing
So what is it? Pegging is a sex act that allows heterosexual couples to completely reverse their roles in the bedroom.
Instead of the woman being the one who is penetrated, it’s the man. Wearing a strap on dildo a woman will penetrate her man anally and from what I’ve read can be quite the liberating experience. You do however have to consider that this is probably more in line with a ‘fetish’ type sexual act and there are a lot of people; men in particular that just aren’t into it.
It’s actually more common than you think and although men tend not to express their desire to be penetrated, you’d be surprised as to how many actually enjoy it. The biggest stigma attached to pegging is that many men feel that being penetrated anally will literally make them gay.
Let’s get one thing straight here; it doesn’t. Being Gay has everything to do with being attracted to someone of the same sex and absolutely nothing to do with a sexual act performed between heterosexual couples.
Being pegged by your partner doesn’t make you anymore gay than it does a woman watching lesbian porn. This particular pornography although enjoyed by men is more likely to be watched by women.
In recent studies done, 82% of women would prefer to watch lesbian porn than anything else and it has absolutely nothing to do with any of them identifying as gay. And, not any heterosexual women have become gay as a result of watching lesbian porn either. Even if they view it often. It’s just the way of the world these days and being open sexually and willing to experiment in the bedroom has lead us to a point where pegging is now part of our sexual desire conversations.
For me personally I think I’d draw the line at pegging. Aside from the fact I don’t feel I’d enjoy the role reversal aspect of it, my partner would never agree. When I mentioned it to my partner even just joking around; you know for research purposes, he was very clear about what would follow if I decided to doiter poke his fart box with a strap on. But, if in a serious relationship with someone you love and trust you might find it’s something some men are willing to try.
The reason pegging has become so hot right now though, is because anal play for men is becoming more and more acceptable. Those men that do enjoy anal play are rewarded with the opportunity for more intense orgasms caused by prostate stimulation.
Being that a man’s prostate is so close to the anal wall it’s easy to access and arouse if your man is willing. No coughing required. It’s a normal and natural part of our sexual fulfilment and 100% acceptable if both parties are down for it.
According to research aside from the deeply powerful orgasms, the bedroom role reversal is what people are finding so appealing. We are so used to men being in control in the bedroom and I’ll be honest here; that’s exactly how I like it. But; during pegging it seems that plenty of men are appreciating the opportunity to be submissive. Just as many women are relishing in being the dominant party for a change.
What to consider?
Our bottoms were designed as exit holes. A lot of men would like to keep it that way. However, if you want to give it a go please understand that when putting anything in your butt it needs to have a flared base or in the case of a dildo securely attached to the strap on harness. You don’t want to be one of those, ‘Craziest Things Found Stuck Up Butts’ stories on the net. Although more acceptable globally, it certainly won’t stop the world from laughing at your expense if your Emergency Department nurse shares your anal account with the world.
Lubrication is key
Your arsehole is sensitive and with more than 8000 nerve endings you need to treat this area with care and tenderness. Don’t go slamming it in there dry for the love of god. Your man will feel like he’s the jailhouse bitch and unlikely you’ll ever get to try it again properly if you do this.
Communication is imperative. Openly discuss expectations and boundaries, both before pegging and during the act. Just as you like to express what you do and don’t like, you need to give your man the same opportunity. Other than that, it’s pretty much all systems go.
Personally, I don’t think I will be introducing pegging into our relationship any time soon. I’m certainly not fet shaming. Each to their own I say. If you are open to experimenting and trying new things it makes for an interesting sex life and believe this is a natural and healthy part of any relationship. I’m just not that into it and neither is my partner.
If it is something you are considering though, there’s plenty of information out there. A series of sex education videos created by Carol Queen the famous sexologist gives you a full account of ‘how to’ when it comes to pegging. You can jump on websites like ‘Fetlife’ and sign up to be a part of the ‘BDSM, Fetish and Kinky’ community and meet like-minded souls if you so wish. If there’s anything I’ve learnt about the worlds sexual palate is that there isn’t many kinks that are off limits. And if you’ve thought about it, chances are, plenty of other people have too. So if you’re into anal play go get it.
If nothing else, pegging has bought gender equality to the table in a very real way. If your man doesn’t want it in his arse, you certainly don’t have to have it in yours.
Checkmate motherf*ckers.
from Stay at Home Mum https://www.stayathomemum.com.au/bodyandsoul/pegging-its-here-and-its-a-thing/
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